J......I got the same from ym DB coach as well. I think there is OM but I have no proof either. At minimum she is going out with friends, meeting guys, possibly dating etc. I have asked her twice early on and she denied. Since she has moved out I stopped snooping, asking etc. I try to be as friendly as I can be however I am 3 months in and she has shown no signs of the family being a more attractive option. I wish I had better news for you based on my history however you are probably in for the long haul if you want to try and and stay together with your W. My reality is the same and at some point I will have to decide when I am ready to file myself if she does not change her heart.
