Well, I wonder if STBXW could in some way use this against me, to claim alienation. I suspect she has BPD, and so I'm anticipating a rough D.
I've been careful to not make disparaging remarks about her and just address my side of things.
I also do wonder if it was good for the kids' R with their mother. But maybe this is the NG in me worrying about her R with them. It's not my job to get them to be happy with this, when she is ultimately the one who walked away from this M.
I just wanted my boys to know that this does not represent my values as a person. I believe in M vows and take them seriously. I want to pass that on to my sons. Pretending to be okay with it allows my STBXW to steal this teaching moment from me.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
