Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those "the kids will be fine" people. But I do think this might not be quite as horrible for them as I'd imagined.
Obviously you are trying to make the best out of a bad situation. So plan A did not work out so kick the $hit out of plan B right? My kids have adapted and I think are doing a good job of adjusting. I know if they had their choice they would want their family back together however I do think it will be much easier on them if they see you and your W interacting in a positive manner.
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I do wonder sometimes where the real me is in all of this. I look back on myself pre-BD, fat and complacent, and I recognize my flaws in the M. I look back at the me immediately after BD, and I see someone desperately - and embarrassingly - trying to hold on to something that was already gone.
You got your lazy in your MR and with life. It happens, it happened to me. I know I won't let it happen again We all did things after BD that looking back are embarrassing. Mine lasted for roughly 3 weeks and then I did a big temperature check a month after she moved out. It's normal, don't beat yourself up. You got your confidence back now though so there is no looking back!
We all did things after BD that looking back are embarrassing. Mine lasted for roughly 3 weeks and then I did a big temperature check a month after she moved out. It's normal, don't beat yourself up. You got your confidence back now though so there is no looking back!