So play this out. I always try to think like 2 or 3 steps ahead and look for potential outcomes. You say "sorry I need you home by 4, I got plans". She says "sorry not going to happen I am taking this client". What is your next move??
Man that's a hard question. If she responded that way I'm sure my impulse would be to get angry, which certainly wouldn't help things. But what IS the appropriate response? I could validate until the cows come home but if she still refuses to come home, then what?
"Im sorry I cant watch them tonight"
I dont understand why more than that is needed. Theres a plan and you agreed to it with her. Doing anything outside of that is her asking you for a favor which you dont HAVE to agree to.
