You may check out these threads for some information that might help. I would say learn from the mistakes you made the first time around, take it very slow, get into IC and/or MC for the both of you.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2668431&page=2

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2607681&page=1

Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018