Personally after confessing to my H that I cheated I was away from him and even wanted to cut contact with him. He threatened that if I do he would have to talk to my family about everything. I had made up my mind to leave him and divorce because we have had many fights and he has been so passive. I got admitted to hospital and didnt even inform him. He found out from some person and he called. He flew in the next day and he was insulting me and saying bad things. I even made my mind that i need to leave him. After a week or so when I was out of hospital he asked if we could go and see a MC. we went for 2 weeks. He was hurt but for the first time in years he was making an effort and being a good husband. Of course there are times he gets angry and I detach myself. I used to pursue him and be the one who keeps conversations and try to initiate communication all these years but now he is the one who makes an effort. He understands that I had not planned to cheat and I didnt love the OM. He is more supportive than before. He is not passive and making a huge effort to get the marriage going. Though we are still in there I can see light at the end of the tunnel. Seems our marriage may ed up being way better and already I am feeling my needs are being met.
M 11 Dated for 4 years before then Me 35 H 39 D 10 BD Feb 2016 A 2015 Dec I was never in a R with the OM. Had a one night stand & I stopped contact immediately I confessed the A to H and we went for MC
