W wants a Divorce.. Again

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W and I had a great day yesterday. We had a long talk after our S went to bed and she told she realized it was wrong to put all the blame on me for our MR. She told me that she was still in love with me and that she knows I love her but she wished I would show her that love. One of the biggest problems I feel we have always have is that we both tend to shut down after arguments. We never really resolve the issue, we just sweep it under the rug and move on with our lives. We both tend to avoid conflict and instead of telling each other how we feel we just bottle it up and we build this wall between us.

This is the second time we have decided to delay the D in order to work on our marriage. I really don't want to end up here in a few months and I really don't feel that either of us have the tools in our box to overcome some of the issues. Are there any recommended workshops, weekend retreats or books we can be reading? Should I be heading to the piecing forum? I checked it out but there doesn't seem to be a lot of activity there. Last night was there first time since the end of July we slept in our MBR together. Felt great and I don't want to mess this up.