After hanging up the phone I was resentful about "the position she put me in" and I thought about talking to her about it today. My initial thought process went as follows: My W put me in a situation where I couldn't say no.
Why are you blaming her for your inability to say no?
Originally Posted By: Chris73
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this is total bull$hit. If I had a pair of ba11s I would have said, "Sorry, I have plans. I need you to be home by 4." My kids wouldn't have loved me any less and sure my W would have probably been pi$$ed, but so what, right? My nice-guy resentment puts all the onus on her for my happiness. This has always been the problem in our relationship.
Yes! Glad you see that.
Originally Posted By: Chris73
So now that the moment has passed and I chose to stay home so that she could work, I think it's best to just let it go and decide to react differently next time. Thoughts?
Yeah. What would you even say? Actions are more important than words anyway.
Last edited by Cadet; 09/18/1702:23 AM. Reason: start a new thread message
M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
