My W does not work on Sunday and our current plan dictates that she always has the kids on Sunday night. I play guitar in a weekly blues jam in Philly and it's the GAL highlight of my week. So yesterday she calls me to say that she just got a last minute job request from a high-profile client and she wouldn't be home until 9. So I agreed to stay home with the kids and forfeit the blues jam
Where the kids already with you? Has she ever done this before? Is it a pattern or 1 time event?
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But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this is total bull$hit. If I had a pair of ba11s I would have said, "Sorry, I have plans. I need you to be home by 4." My kids wouldn't have loved me any less and sure my W would have probably been pi$$ed, but so what, right? My nice-guy resentment puts all the onus on her for my happiness. This has always been the problem in our relationship.
I would have done the same thing but IMO it is about balance. I think women want a guy that can be both and you know for a fact that the only reason you are analyzing this is because of the situation you are in. I am sure you have displayed to her that you are not always a NG over the course of the past few months.
Is it BS....yep. But what options do you have?
So play this out. I always try to think like 2 or 3 steps ahead and look for potential outcomes. You say "sorry I need you home by 4, I got plans". She says "sorry not going to happen I am taking this client". What is your next move??
