You are right not to change your life just in case. I hope you dating doesn't complicate things for you. You are at this long enough to know your own mind and what is best.

You seem to have your head in a good place and are objective and reasonable with your requests and expectations. The ball is in his court.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together