Doing models requires above all concentration and many people when depressed cannot focus enough to do that. Plus depression blocks the desire to want to too. A short answer to a complicated issue.
Coly, don't ask him about ye. Have you noticed that after every limited communication there is an ice breaker followed by pleasant exchanges. Then you ask and he scurries back into his man cave. Askinghas never helped until now and it won't this time either. Even if ye slip back into NC he will not experience the pressure of your question and hence only have your pleasant interactions to remember. Over time only having positive interactions could build a desire for more, but slowly. Negative interactions reset the counter.
I know this is hard and you just want to know. We all do. But pushing to know only pushes them away. So you force the response to be one where they don't want to reconnect.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
