I knew better but I married her anyway

[Lovelyp]

So sorry for what you are going through. I think you do love her and she loves you but you built a lot of resentment towards each other such that your love is burried under that. I can see why it is easy to get angry and not stand each other. Since you both say you are people offaith I believe faith can help you deal with the resentment. I would suggest getting to counselling (maybe faith related) and also try to grow in your faith by doing what you must do. I believe you 2 are cauht up in a vicious cycle of hurting each other (reacting to one another so much). How about using faith (I know its easier said than done because it takes serious believing, hope and sacrifice). I was in that cycle and everything my H did was making me angry and I couldnt stand him. He felt the same too. I made a deliberate decision to start searching for where I am wrong, praying for revelation (as some of mstakes we might not even be aware). I felt like I was a victim but one day my eyes were open and I saw how my actions were leading to the situation I was in. I deliberately chose to put aside my pride and humble myself, ask him for forgiveness and start working on my issues that were hurting the marriage. After some time H started to reciprocate and slowly the love started growing and we started communicating. I believe you are both good people but u dont kow skills of communication and let things go bad. You can still love again and enjoy your marriage.