Can you get help? Do you even want to? Do you go to IC to clear your head? Is she getting all the help she can get with her OCD? Do you see someone together? Have you thought about trying a separation and see how that would work out for you?
H-30s W-30s M-5 T-10 D4 ILYBNILWY/BD-May/17 W moves out-May/17 D filed-May/17 House sold, move to apartment-Aug/17 D going through-Jan/18?