then if things don't work out, you have a better you to go through life with.
When I was single, I did single-person things. I went to more happy hours, had friends over to watch football, went on singles trips to foreign countries, threw myself into work, etc. Goal was to do fun things, have fun experiences, and meet women along the way.
So when I am presented with the argument above, that I'll do things to be a better me, I get stuck on the "how" and "what" to do. Because at least in my mind, taking a salsa dance class (something I've always wanted to do) is a great way to engage a member of the opposite sex...but I want to stay married to the one I have at present.
W was a musician and last year started to play in a community band (after I introduced her to one of the main organizers). That's exactly the kind of thing I think your comment speaks to. I don't have those skills, so aside from going to the gym (check!), I have a very short list of things that I'd do to make me a better person (and not be on the path to couple up). I'm open to ideas on this.
