One of the things I've been hung up about is this- when H was telling me about OW (vacation), and I said, well, is she someone you could see yourself really loving and marrying???..... he said ...... ATTENTION- "No, b/c she has young kids and I don't want to raise any more kids."
OK People, I ALREADY KNOW, there are so many things wrong with that statement. And that's one of the reasons I won't even think about being with him again, if that's the best he's got *(And there are more but they are lamer than that.)
I always wondered what I would say when/if i get confirmation my W has OM. I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with it if you know your done. I guess I don't understand why your H would talk about his vacation with OW. Is that normal?
I also don't think there is anything wrong with thinking about OM either if that is what you want. You are definately further along than I am but I guess at some point that is our reality.
I don't think it compares to what your H did and I do think it is different. I also don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as your prepared to move on yourself. I also don't think it makes you a bad person!
