I just read the article and what you posted here. I agree with almost all of it and I do most of it. I am one of those independent women who doesn't need a man, and all that, but I am traditional somewhat. I rarely ever reach out to a guy, but I should if I am interested. I always let them pay and let them all first. I need to work on cutting down the date time, they all seem to go on for hours. I can carry a date pretty well even if there is no connection. I feel awkward ending it though. I ignore every guy with a lazy opening. I will respond to the ones who actually read my profile and seem interested.
I agree with men courting. Anyone I have picked the brain of anyone I have ever dating on their feelings towards that. Everyone of them wants to court the woman and feel like a man. They begin to not like it when they need to make all the decisions or are paying for everything as time goes on. But initially they really want to be the "man". And I want to be treated like the "woman".
When you marry your first real boyfriend you think you get to skip the dating part. I never imagined having real feelings for multiple men in my life. I saw exNG in a photo on FB today. First time in a long time. It was weird. Feelings of nostalgia and what could have been came back, but no longing.
I just want that ONE guy. Many is weird for me. But I have to go fishing to catch one, right?
