JDub, Firstly, never read a self help book before bedtime, it's like trying to do homework, lol! Secondly, your wife's actions are that of attachment so continue acting as if. Don't ignore all the calls/texts, just answer them when you feel your most stable and detached. I don't know if you've read the lighthouse story but it sounds like it would be a solid read for you. To summarize, your wife is like a ship out in the storm, your job is to be that lighthouse, steady and sound, shining the light out into the storm and darkness. You do not join her on the waves for then you will both drown, instead you shine the light (making yourself a stronger, better man) and it is up to her to steer towards shore. You cannot control what the captain of the ship does so stop wondering so much about her thoughts/philosophy/etc...keep the power flowing.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
