I had a mini-epiphany this morning. I don't think my W has ever been in a relationship for more than 3 years before we got married, and it's been almost 17 for us now.
If her knowledge base of what makes a relationship "good" is based on the relationships she's been in, then she has no idea if our relationship is good or not...she's never been in one this long to use as a yardstick. In fact, I don't think any of us have.
So although it would not be wise to discount her feelings, maybe we're just in uncharted territory for both of us? Doesn't mean we need to cut and run, just means we need to get out a map and start exploring.
Maybe that's obvious, I don't know. But it's perspective. Wish I could talk about this with her.
