WW Part 2

[Raysd6]

This sounds cold, but do I still express concern to WW if she says she's not doing well emotionally?

[MoveFrwd]

This sounds cold, but do I still express concern to WW if she says she's not doing well emotionally?

In what way?

[LH19]

Have you read up on validation?

[Raysd6]

LH19 -

From earlier today:

Me: Emotionally are you able to pick up xxxx's ashes after work?
WW: I'll get ashes another day
WW: I'm not doing well...I'm splurging on a massage and hairdresser is doing my hair

I have the validation pages bookmarked so I'll reread those.

[Raysd6]

Ashes are our pet that passed a couple months ago

[Raysd6]

Had the following text exchange with WW yesterday:

WW: Unfortunately you're controlling ways are not appealing.
Me: If you could provide recent examples of my controlling ways that would be really helpful for my personal growth
WW: Not leaving the house
Me: I've said many times I'm not the one who wants to leave the marriage therefore I should not be the one to leave the house
WW: Refusing to leave "the marital bed". Worst thing you could say
Me: I feel differently but I do appreciate you being open and honest with me
WW: It is unfortunate that you don't see how detrimental that behavior is

"Refusing to leave "the marital bed". Worst thing you could say" - This response really threw me. Trying to interpret or understand what WW means by that statement.

[TBSakaJ9]

wow....that is crazy. Who knows what she meant sounds like she is trying to power trip you.

[Raysd6]

Joseph9 -

WW could be trying to power trip me...still don't know what to make of WW's response!

Seems like me unequivocally stating that I'm not leaving the marital bed has affected WW.

I'm out of town this week so WW is at the house with DD's. I bought new sheets that I like and left them on the bed...clean of course! Part of my GAL'ing...

[TBSakaJ9]

break em in and sleep naked!

[Raysd6]

Text exchange with WW last night:

Me: The last 27 years I’ve always been at your side
WW: I know
WW: I know no one would ever love me like you do

My head is spinning on this one. What does that statement mean? Where is her mind?

My first inclination was to respond with:
"Then why are you throwing it all away?"

I haven't responded yet and don't know if I will.

Also don't know what to make of:
WW: Refusing to leave "the marital bed". Worst thing you could say

Thoughts anyone?