Oldtimer 4 years and counting

[Stuck72]

One thing I never admitted to friends or family is that I had given myself the five year MLC deadline. I know I could get hammered for admitting that even here but I had heard so many stories of the MLCer seeing the light after five years.

I looked at timelines too, but I kept pushing it out as they passed. You are done when you're done and there's nothing wrong with believing there is hope out there in the future. Timelines are bad when you get angry that your situation didn't turn around by a certain date.

Sadly, it did remind me that so many people are coupled up or have families with whom to travel. I am really good being by myself but am also very social; so, don't think I will repeat solo trip.

I had this problem too. It's too hard to go alone. Do you have a girlfriend from your old life in the states who would enjoy meeting you someplace fun? Or you could find a travel club?

Am scared at what I will find with his financial disclosure. He has been spending and now it looks like mediation not an option as I cannot trust him.

I take it he didn't show up?

While I am on my roll, will also say that I feel so much shame in my failed marriage. I don't know why.

Please cut yourself some slack. You couldn't do it alone. If you didn't see it coming, he wasn't communicating.