It sounds like he wants you to be the bad guy so he can have freedom to do what he likes. Please don't take abuse. You might consider telling him that you understand he is angry and that you regret your choice, but that you will not listen to insults.

Me 45 H 46
At bomb T 22 M 13
D14 S12

H fell in love 2/14
H moved out 11/14
H bought a house 8/15
Legal sep 9/15, final 12/15 - I filed
No moves toward D