Am I stuck?

[Citygrl]

Glad you posted as every situation is so different but shares similarities. Like you, I have been reading for four years and just started posting.

I think I made the decision to post as I needed a reality check after all that time and knew this was the only place where I could express myself and people would hopefully get it. By that I mean that, as Michelle says, friends and family want the best for us and see us as stuck and think that "moving on" is the way forward. Here There is a better understanding of the complexities of the situation and we have shared experiences.

To many people we do appear stuck because they don't know all the intricacies of the marriage. My MLCer has some doozies of behaviour that I never shared with anyone as in the back of my head I didn't want people to know because if we ever did get back together I didn't want his dirty secrets to cloud those relationships. So are you stuck or in a lull?

So, sorry for the rambling. Just welcome. I am not sure how to advise you but others here offer excellent advice. Also, how long have you been together, etc.?