Hi Pax, glad to hear things are going well for you. Truly, I think you have your life so well lined up that once the irksome D matters stop weighing you down, you'll truly fly.
Great news about the BB event - wow!! I'm going on a workshop in the Autumn, not run by her, but by one of a network of facilitators. I'm so looking forward to it!!
Hopefully the L change might bring a little more sense to the proceedings. In my situation, XH began by 'offering' me very little by way of a settlement. He regarded most of 'our' marital assets as 'his.'
Once he got a L, he seemed to accept how these things actually worked. And we had the added factors of - he seemed frantic to exit the M and start a new life/family - his L warned him of potentially huge (�60k+) legal bills for a contested D...
In the end, we agreed on the usual settlement in our circumstances - Total assets - XH takes what he came in with, so does Sotto. The rest gets divided 50/50.
The formula seemed to help and removed some of the emotion. We ended up with a single page spreadsheet showing how that would work...
Any ways, I know you are going to be just fine and I hope things resolve for you soon.
Take care Pax xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
