Coly.....I'm sorry you are upset. I totally understand exactly how you feel. I think I mentioned in an earlier post that my H acted strangely when it came time to get his things. As a matter of fact I think he said something like "now it makes everything final".....WOW!!!!
Like we have heard/read before, none of what they do makes any sense to us.....thank goodness I still have a hard time not mind reading, wondering why H did or didn't do something. I still am struggling with detaching.
I love what Blu said ......
I can look back and see that he was not often doing anything to me. I was causing a lot of my own suffering by not letting go of him, by focusing so much on him, and also by trying to predict what the future held. By doing that, I wasn't living my own authentic life
I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this (((hugs)))
I still have a hard time not mind reading, wondering why H did or didn't do something. I still am struggling with detaching. 
