so, I have the talk with my wife and Im back in my house whether she likes it or not. She drives away to go shopping and during her travels she texts the OM. These texts were along the lines of "lets meet up" because I had just put my foot down. The reason I know this is out of no where this afternoon I get facebook message from the wife of the OM who I have never met or spoke with. It says "I need to talk with you". I reply and we meet up. She tells me that her and her husband share 1 car and this afternoon out of nowhere he says I need to go to the gym. This ended up being right after I had my talk with my wife. So he takes the car and goes to the gym. It was his 2nd trip to the gym that day so she was skeptical and had her friend pick her up and follow. They followed to the gym where my wife was there waiting and she saw her husband get in my wifes car and drive off. They followed them to a park where they talked and only talked. The wife of the OM got out and confronted them. They both denied any affair...still!!! and that they were just talking. This is when the wife of the other man contacted me and we met up and exchanged info. I'm further along in the process than she is so it was sad to see her crying. I dont have any tears left. It was a nice visit for an hour and a half. She is very nice and the whole situation is just so unfortunate. While we are talking her husband is texting her that he loves her...it was strange. So I leave and pick up my kids from my friends house and am headed back to my house that I now live in. Half way home I get a text from my wife that she will not be there tonight. No surprise really. She said "I know your disgusted with me but please dont say anything negative about me to the kids" and we need to get together and discuss living arrangements because Im not moving out either.
So that brings me to this post. I'm not sure what there is to discuss! I dont care if she's in the house or not but I made it perfectly clear that Im not living anywhere but at this house and if Im in the way or not giving her the space she needs than she needs to move out. What discussion is needed? I dont think it was about sleeping arrangements. Maybe she thought my talk meant she needs to move out but I dont think so...I was very clear. Anyway, i guess I'll find out tomorrow but there is no way I'm sleeping anywhere other than in this house unless Im on vacation.
Me: 43 Wife: 37 2 Kids: (8yr old B, 5yr old G) OM Discovered Mid Aug '17
