I have been changing up my detaching tactic. I'm adding the love, and taking away so much of the coldness.
How are you "adding love"?
Detaching is not showing anger, coldness, spite, etc. Please read below.
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When we are Detached from the actions of another, we can meet anger or indifference with love.
Met with love, we are in a position to diffuse the situation, and transform it in a way that will be in alignment with our goals.
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When she call and text she starts off talking about the kids and then go into her talkative self, before BD. She has been also telling me her plans. She hasn't told me her plans for months. Now I don't tell her mind. I see this as, now I'm telling you my plans, you should me yours. What do you all think?
You feel like a friend b/c she is using you like a friend. When you are detached, you will not have the need to analyze everything she says or does.
How do you respond to her texts and calls? Do you engage when she is talking about her plans?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
How are you "adding love"?