So the W has finally started to lighten up a bit and talked to me about how she's been feeling. She says that I smother her and that she needs her independence. She says she feels like I'm in every room of the house and she can't have time to herself. Then she goes on to say that she doesn't believe I love her. If I loved her I would know what she needs. I'm very confused on how to 180 this situation.

Do I give her more space than she needs? How do I show her I love her if I'm not around? FWIW my counselor has also told me that I am too codependent on her and that's likely driving her away. I have done more things this summer away from her than ever but apparently that's still not enough. Won't she just find someone else while I'm out GAL?

BD: 5/28/17 "We're like roommates, there is no passion anymore"
Early October she is moving out so she can "think about what she really wants in life"
10/22/17 She's gone