Do you want to save your marriage. To me it seems like you are more worried about the money and embarrassment than saving your marriage. I think your wife and you need to seek counseling. Is she willing to go?

M:37 W:37
T:11 M:10
S17, S13, S10, S4
BD:06/28/17
OM confirmed 07/20/17
Recon the M 10/29/17
Working hard:2gether

Onward and forward

This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.