MLC or WAS... either way, I'm here

[LAJar]

Gordie,
I assumed he wasn't going to pay and just made the payment myself. The $ is hard enough to part w/ put the realization of what he is trying to do is even harder.

I have a son from a previous R, but H was the only father-figure my son knew. He considered him his son until he didn't. I was a very young mom, so my son is grown and recently moved away to finish college (3 weeks after H left). The week before son left, I told him what was going on, since son didn't live w/ us. He was dumbfounded, angry, and sad. He decided to text H to see if they could talk and H said yes and called him. Had my son not called him, I'm not sure H would have ever communicated with him. Clearly running, avoiding. Since that one convo, he still hasn't reached out to him, even though he said he would.

Re. home, we've only owned it since April. Not much equity if any for that period of time, but we did do a full re-model of the kitchen, master bathroom and other cosmetic repairs that should increase the value. I can't sustain the mortgage, all of the home expenses, my 401k loan repayment for the renovations and my daily living costs alone. It's just too much and he knows this. I am dipping into savings which isn't that much. I will need to begin conversations about selling. This is the frustrating part, along with his lack of ability to file/serve properly. One of his reasons for leaving was my controlling nature. I understand this is how he perceived it and it's valid to a point, but much of this controlling centered around $ and responsibility. I was trying to make good decisions for the long-term. Yes, had we communicated, it is something we definitely needed to work through to strike a balance. In the here and now, if this was a legal issue we were in together, I would do all of the work. We took someone to small claims and in purchasing our home, I did all and then the majority of the work. At this point, I am resolute in saying I will not do the same in the D. Why should I when he wanted this? These are his consequences. I'm sure when it comes to selling the house, I will do most of the work as well. Now, with D - How to not be resentful? How to strike a balance?

Yes, blocking him on my cell was self-preservation. When your H can only communicates with you via text and those text only request that you agree to a $ amount that you know isn't fair or real, how do continue to just accept that?