Please be careful. I can only compare your experience with mine. 8 yrs and a half after bomb, too much contact with ex-h still triggers anxiety in me.
From what i have read in your story, i would advise the NO- CONTACT rule. See, from his mood in the call, you got questions and confusion...
How do you feel about your bro being added in the legal procedure? Your brother loves you and will protect you but do you think he might also share only what he beleives you want to hear as to protect your heart and feelings. If he sees you struggleing, he might with- hold bits and pieces from you..
Your L should be the one to handle ALL communications between the 2 of you..
Any " faux pas " on your stbx would be usable in your case. Not sure if what is shared with your bro would have power in the court room...
His reason for pushing this forward is irrelevant.. keep your eyes on the finish line..
have a wonderful week-end!!!
