So. The D is final. But parenting plan is going to mediation.
Judge said the dissolution agreement was valid on its face but asked us to negotiate. She got a little more from my 401k. My L pushed for it. It wasn't a lot of money (relatively speaking) so I agreed. Then XW wanted all of my appliances. Not just my washer dryer but my stove and refrigerator and dishwasher and she wanted my lawnmower. I finally said "it sounds like the judge will make you live with he original agreement. You're already getting more than that with the 401k. If you keep being unreasonable then I'll take my chances with the judge." Even her L told her to accept that she had no right to what she wanted and to be happy that she got more. Then she wanted me to keep paying for her health insurance. My L (surprisingly) very gently explained to her that it didn't work that way and that she could try healthcare.gov
As far as parenting goes she doesn't just want more time. She wants to take primary residential parent. Her cross complaint for divorce makes it clear that she is the natural parent and I am the adoptive parent. That was pretty cold.
I knew she was going to do what she did. Didn't make it hurt less.
