25yearsMLC 10 Years Later I FILE D part 6

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Update

wedding hoopla begins soon. Saw comedians with sisters and d28 last night. Good times.

Sometimes d28 takes a parental tone with me and I'm not sure that's b/c of the hospitalization or divorce or what. I'm not crazy about it but I know it's well intended.

d20 comes tonight.

H called bro again. And then texted bro that he wanted to talk. Bro works full time but told me.

When I text bro for details, he's too busy to give good answers.

I asked what h's tone was like, b/c I'm not in the mood for more surprises and want to gird myself for declarations from h. Like that he's marrying schmoopie OW and wants out of the m now or starts in on why he's the hero/victim and I'm the villain.

Or whatever.

So then My bro replied that h's tone is "Pleading".

Wth?

This is a happy family weekend event for me and mine. It's not for h to intrude upon. (Sometimes I wonder if he knows it's happening now. I guess if he took the time to look on fb, at any remaining family members, he could). But that would require effort and interest in others.
This set me back.


My anxiety is going up instead of excitement and Crap, I was spinning again and with my d28 here!

It was so distracting to me that I -YES- I- texted h

"bro told me you two spoke. This weekend is nieces' wedding and hoopla. So next week would be better."


and that's^^^ it. Sisters and T agree it's better for ME not to have direct talks.

Any fact that notes a flaw or error or violation of the court order that I present to h, no matter how empirically verified & calmly stated, will be seen as an "attack."


I'm not doing another eggshell discussion. I'd win at trial, which h may now know or fear.

And my guess is h is "pleading" b/c of pressure he feels. (Join the club). I'll call my L this Monday and let her know that we can probably narrow down the areas of dispute (which in MY mind were narrowed down months ago...)

At least now I can breathe and enjoy the weekend activities. Probably