Just wanted to pop in and say hello. I liked the post by Roist as well. I think the LBS (and yes I was guilty of it too) spends far too much time speculating and mind reading. We are hurting and afraid, so we try to make sense of things subconsciously hoping we will get some relief, or that maybe it's not so bad, or maybe even to deflect blame off of ourself. The reality is we do not know why they do what they do. It really only serves us to make the focus be on what is best for us. So quite simply, if you dont want to store his belongings anymore--and why would you--just say "please come get all info your things, I have put them in this place." Then don't give it another thought and go on with your day.
I am not an epert, but I think above is the only road to detachment--this is doing something for you without considering the affect on him. You know how hard my sitch was, and I suffered tremendously! Years later tho, I can look back and see that he was not often doing anything to me. I was causing a lot of my own suffering by not letting go of him, by focusing so much on him, and also by trying to predict what the future held. By doing that, I wasn't living my own authentic life.
Take care, Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
