Roist, for me that was some of the best most meaningful advice I have read on the board. While I don't think we will ever reconcile, I think that the advice is still golden for how to reach a more civil state with him at some point in the future.
Coly, I'm sorry he is still bringing you so much pain. On the stuff front, my kept a lot of his stuff here and I think I held onto that believing it meant he was coming back or still cared or something. When we were planning to move I had him come get most of it (he brought too small a truck and the big stuff is still here in the garage). Nevertheless, getting him out of my space has been a godsend. Seeing his stuff was very traumatizing for me and a constant reminder of the pain.
He's going to keep coming back whether his stuff is there or not. I think for you it might give you some peace to have it gone. I totally get the desire to hold onto it, but it is a false security that really means nothing. Some walk out with nothing and never come back for anything.
I would love it if mine were home building models instead of chasing immoral women.
