I remember that guy Ginger. The one you gave profile advice to right? Well maybe his initial profile was accurate to the type of guy he really was!
I was reading an internet article with advice for women, I will forward it to you, but will post some of her more debatable points about it here to see opinions
Some of the things she advised was
1. Never contact men first. Now I know this is old fashioned. And I know that men will always say that's not true, they like to be contacted, or they are shy. And some people say that you will miss out on a nice, shy guy this way.
Well this author says that if a guy wants to meet you badly enough, they will figure it out. And that men who "aren't truly available prefer to take a passive approach". She says that by initiating contact you will get more dates, but with guys that arent really into you but that a guy that pursues will be more interested and have more value.
(BTW, I was the initiator with my ex)
2. Ignore guys with lazy opening lines.
3. He should pay for the date. You should not have to help him date you. ANd if he really likes you, it will be his pleasure to be generous within his budget. She says just a simple cup of coffee or juice bar is ok ( I know this one is up for debate)
4. Be aware of signs of disinterest and be quick to end it. Never work to engage him in conversation if he is unengaged (drinking, checking phone, acting flat)
5. When there are Any cancels or flaking out from a man don't immediately give him a 2nd chance. Pass up the first apology and see if he persists.
6. Limit initial meeting to an hour, even if you are having a good time. Have something scheduled after your meet up, like work or a meeting. He should have to setup a "proper date"
She is basically saying that it is natural for men to court and that it increases the attraction and chemistry for both genders when you abide by more traditional rules. It might not be logically and rationally fair in our more equalized society, but that is works on a more subconscious level.
