Current situation – Been detaching much better, come to the point where I finally understand what’s going to happen is going to happen irrelevant of what I do.
Once she knew she was going to get no information from me the conversation turned towards the predictable D talk, I again mentioned that I could not and would not stop her from filing but would not do this myself. I can’t remember how but I recall a comment she said AFTER this conversation where she said “I can’t go back to the MR after what I’ve done to you” I remained calm and confident and just evaded the comment knowing she was temperature checking me.
Mark,
That's a big one. When I realized there was nothing I could do to change my sitch total detachment was not far behind.
Great awareness of the big time temp check. She wanted you to say "no honey we can overcome this and put it behind us".
Be careful with the mind reading on how often the OM is at the house. Blending two families is difficult and they are probably just settling into needing time apart.
Your doing great and are going to be fine either way!
