Still here. Still not detached...

[Chris73]

I've never really raged in front of my W. That's not my MO. I'm more of a passive aggressive type. Most of my comments are sarcastic and disguised as humor. Typical traits of nice guy syndrome. I try very hard to keep this to a minimum these days, but sometimes it's automatic and then I end up agonizing over my words for the rest of the day.

Sometimes I think that had a shown genuine anger a few times during our marriage, things might be different now.

There were a couple times over the last year when I lashed out a bit and said things like, "I can't WAIT for this to be over!" but in my defense, this was prompted by my W telling me (through gritted teeth) that she wanted to punch me, throw something at me, or make my life a living hell. One time she dumped a whole basket of folded laundry on my head! It's funny as I type it now, and had our relationship been different, dumping the laundry on my head would have probably been a good tension breaker. But at the time it was just disrespectful. I know I'm supposed to be stoic in these situations, but I couldn't.

But I digress. The short answer is that I try very hard to keep my cool. But to the detriment of my own stress levels. I know I can't rage on her, but I typically don't rage at all and I need to find an outlet for it.