Yeh Rose you're probably right. But from the LBS perspective, all of these types of messages truly $uck because they end up giving weird signals. When I got something like this from my W I would have the following thoughts:
1. Why is she being nice? 2. Why is she messaging me about stuff like this when she asked for a separation? 3. Is she trying to temp check me? 4. If I am so great, why the hell doesn't she want to be with me?
keep adding to that list.
I know they all don't make sense, but it adds to the already emotional turmoil the LBS is in.
I don't personally understand the confusion so I will try to explain the best I can pal.
What you need to realise is that you serve 2 separate roles...
You are a spouse/husband AND you are a father.
2 Separate roles..
You are thinking as a spouse, when your partner is talking to you as a father.
You cant view one coming from the other role.
As a spouse she doesn't want you currently. As a father she will always need you. Hence the conflicting messages/feelings.
She is talking to you as a father. Not a partner. Its all business at the moment.
If you take 'father talk' and try to imagine it as a desperate spouse wanting to fix things you will spin and spin.
