Originally Posted By: Jmstl
So, I get this message on FB from W

Hey, did you know about this page? I could not be happier with our decision to choose <D's school> Thank you for being such an awesome dad. smile

I was having such a good morning too, and this flood of emotion comes back.

Yeah, I know objectively I am a good dad. But I feel like Jesus. I am such a great dad, but apparently not good enough human being to be your husband? I almost feel like she does this stuff on purpose.


Well, she probably does do it on purpose, but not in the way you think.

Honestly, I'm shocked by the spin you are putting on this, but I see other posters agreeing with you, so it's clear you are not alone.

To me, this seems a nice, friendly gesture to show appreciation for your work as her child's other parent. She's saying thank you. It seems like a suggestion that might come from a book on how to be a good parent when divorced or separated. I don't think she is trying to hurt you.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16