Journey to Acceptance

[Coly23]

Journaling...

I hope everybody is doing well today/evening. I haven't felt like posting lately but I have been reading along.

So I haven't heard from H for a while. I did text him last Saturday morning to wish him well for the start of the hockey season and that started some texting back and forth about what we were both up to at the weekend. Since then nothing until this morning when I got a text from him asking if he could come over to the house to pick up some packages for a model millennium falcon that he has been trying to put together for nearly 2.5 years! A little background. H got a subscription to one of these magazines that you get a piece of a model with to build with each issue.

He had dozens of these blooming packages in the spare room and had hardly started building the stupid model so when he left I packed them all up and gave them to him. However they were still being delivered to our address even though he put a redirect on it so I just threw them in a drawer. So now 16 months after he left he wants the rest so he can start building it! Even though he still has a load of clothes, trainers, paperwork and tools left at the house he just wants the bits to build his stupid model. I was very unDB and told him that I suppose he has plenty of time on his hands now that myself and D aren't around! As you can imagine I got crickets!

I went to dinner with a friend tonight and I was so angry it took every bone in my body to stop myself from telling him to come and get the rest of his stuff. I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I need a boundary to say that he can't just keep dipping in and out of the house to pick and choose things that he needs. The next time he wants something I will expect him to take the lot!

I'm just so amazed that this model is so important to him. Does he really have that much time on his hands! This thing has so many pieces and is so fiddly if will take him a very long time and I thought he was having the time of his life going out every night and weekend. How very sad!!

Happy nearly weekend everyone!!