To be honest, I think there is a little conflict on the detaching piece. So I have a misunderstanding of when I should interact with my wife. When reading the detachment information, it says don't initiate conversations.
Then reading Sandi2 thread, it says, wife is not looking for love. So how do we loving detach and show that we care. If our S are to believe they are losing us, aren't they to believe that our love is fleeing as well?
It just means don't be cold, rude or angry. You can detach while still being pleasant and happy. You're supposed to be showing her what she'll miss, and she's not going to miss a snippy, impatient, needy you. Right? Lovingly detach doesn't mean buy her flowers and whisper sweet nothings in her ear, because THAT is NOT detaching. It just means give her time and space but don't treat her like she has the plague. Read Sandi's rules again, those rules are 100% what lovingly detaching is all about. Remove all pressure.
