Try to think about yourself and not how your actions might affect H. If you do things for yourself and feel good, he will take notice. Read the first post from Cadet again. This will take time, and that is probably a good thing to give each of you time to work on yourself.
Your H is trying to get away from you. If you try to move closer and "trying everything", he will just start running even faster.
If you have not gone further about talking about financials maybe you should go on like you have done using your joint account? I don't know if it would make a difference really. Your H does not sound like he is well and you are probably linked to that. Especially after what you told us about your dynamics. He can only fix this by himself (and hopefully professional that he have to get himself). You cannot help him here, he does not want your help.
Hope you will get some advoces from some of our veterans as well!
H-30s W-30s M-5 T-10 D4 ILYBNILWY/BD-May/17 W moves out-May/17 D filed-May/17 House sold, move to apartment-Aug/17 D going through-Jan/18?
