Your welcome, I have literally spent hours reading posts on this forum from the vets to really help me process my situation.
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My issue is that I have already moved out, should I have not?
IMO move back in........but I am not a vet so please wait for a few more folks to chime in. They are always lurking
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if not should I move back in?
Again I would say Yes......there have been other men who have moved out of there house and their W moved their AP in. I don't think you want that to happen.
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It does seem to be easier on the two of us with me not being in the house.
Why can't she move out? I think most people would say don't make it easy on her.
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So my mindset now is no contact with her, only reply to her texts or answer her phone calls but no calls or texts from me, no questions, no prying, no involvement at all, only replies.
The general thought is to only reply to those text's that are actionable where she asks you a question and you need to give a response back. The guidance is also to not respond right away because you are busy having a great life.
Good on the other, don't initiate anything unless it is kid related or finances.
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The last 2 days when I've brought the kids back to her I have not gone in, I kiss them each in the driveway and drive away without saying or seeing anything from her. With me already moved out (4 days now) I'm thinking I should just remain moved out otherwise it seems like Im flip flopping once again. Any advise?
Kid pick up and drop off was hard at first for me. I always tried to act upbeat, happy and polite. I also made sure I was looking good with new clothes, etc. I made sure my appearance was spot on! I didn't know what to say at first so I just kept the conversation short, to the point and got out as quickly as I could. I tried not to linger and tried to be the first to end the conversation and leave.
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With me already moved out (4 days now) I'm thinking I should just remain moved out otherwise it seems like Im flip flopping once again. Any advise?
IMO you need to move back in but wait for the folks with far more experience than I. I think they will tell you that you are going to have to get lovingly tough with your W. You've been doing something thinking and you know I just don't agree that I should be the one to move out etc.
Again wait for some additional advice as I am still very new with my process and most of what I am typing to you about is what I have picked up along the way.
Here is another thread for you to review....maybe you can pick up some stuff from it in the meantime.
