Hi Don....sorry you are here and for you sitch but you are in good hands.
The general advice around here is for the LBS to not move out of his home or the MBR. If anyone leaves it is the cheater.
Read Sandi's reflections below and the link's cadet provided and that should hopefully help get you off to a good start. Also if you don't want a D stop talking out D or your R in general. Additionally stop all pursuing activities immediately.
Thank you for linking that, I read it over. I have decided to flip a 180 and just be blunt with my wife but it's only been the last 48hrs or so when I realized the sappy, depressed loser tactic wasn't going to get me anywhere. My issue is that I have already moved out, should I have not? and if not should I move back in? It does seem to be easier on the two of us with me not being in the house. Harder on the kids but I'm trying to look towards the future. So my mindset now is no contact with her, only reply to her texts or answer her phone calls but no calls or texts from me, no questions, no prying, no involvement at all, only replies. The last 2 days when I've brought the kids back to her I have not gone in, I kiss them each in the driveway and drive away without saying or seeing anything from her. With me already moved out (4 days now) I'm thinking I should just remain moved out otherwise it seems like Im flip flopping once again. Any advise?
Me: 43 Wife: 37 2 Kids: (8yr old B, 5yr old G) OM Discovered Mid Aug '17
