Has declared he wants to reunite. Made a terrible mistake, got himself into a mess--"I don't know what I was thinking, or how I got here. I lost my family. I see now that it doesn't matter where I am, or who I'm with, I have to make things right with me."
He has revealed some details of his relationship with OW---not pretty. We are essentially talking about a predator woman, who was/is looking for someone to take care of her. Sounds freakishly like my former MIL. Just taking notes, not over-analyzing this... but, find it really interesting, he went for someone so controlling, somewhat mean and an over-the-top narcis. My instincts into who she is--I was dead on.
Anyway, after the last phone call, and several outreach calls--I asked for a 72-hour break from him. Clarified, again, there is no remote possibility of a reunion if A. He doesn't have at least 3 months sobriety with support B. Isn't in therapy C. Hasn't ended things for good with OW and she is GONE. Until then, it's status quo, I continue to date, live my life, focus on my business, etc...
Had a GREAT evening out with girlfriends last night at the champagne/used bookstore.
He is considering taking a job about 15 minutes from where he is now, still in OHIO. The job would mean less responsibility, more money and better benefits for therapy. I did add my two cents that I thought his having time to focus on himself with less responsibility sounds like a good idea---but, not my circus, or my call.
Just trying to give some insight into 5.5 years into this journey.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
