Thanks for your view. I am mindful to express gratitude and appreciation daily. I have done low key version on Thanksgiving during this crisis. I will be careful to not go over the top.

But I can show appreciation even if she doesn't love me. Heck I could even do so if I didn't love her. They are unrelated technically though one could motivate/cause the other.

Thanks for waving the warning flag.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together