For 20+ years every decision every move i made was for my family. Im there for my son and daughter but things just keep getting worse.
My s tries to stay in contact with is mom. She will make plans to talk with him then will not answer phone. He has started to want to check up on her if she blows him off or sends a text then shuts off phone.
Daughter seems to be doing the best of us all i know she hasn't read any of my DB books but she has her GAL activities down pat..
Back to why im failing ...we did check on the w she was not at MIL
Train completely came of the track tonight multiply phone calls by my son to w no response.
Ilost patience i called a few times only good think voice mailbox was full so i couldnt leave a message. I did text her but by that time had myself in a little better frame of mind.
She will know we have checked up on her and i beleive my S did leave a few messages..
I have had limited contact over last 4 days and it is very easy to have your imagination get the better of you.
Im stuggling to understand this...
w leaves no talk of devorce, other then cloths and not much of them has not moved forward with anything else. Is all over the map with contact. Will convince herself kids kids do not want to spend time with her even though the try and plan things and are in contact everyday.
She Has stayed strong in our church (attendance). Sits in the same row as us,
One or two comments back i mentioed telling her to stay away.
Boundaries Question
Should i discuss the issue of contact with the kids?
It has been 7-8 months with some change in contact but no real change in what the w actually is moving towards.
Is it a common thing for a waw to leave and just go into a holding pattern with no real end game.
Iknow there are comments like they always have a plan in place, my w seemed to run but then settle back into same behavior patterns..
Im truly at a loss on how to continue my GAL has taken a hit over last few days more concered with my S and where his thoughts are at.
