Oh yeah, life goes on...

[roist]

Of course no one deserves contempt. Dynamics exist in most relationships that could easily escalate to that point. Most people don't see that escalation and only remember being on the receiving end and not liking it and hence the person doing it.

I am not blaming you, but pointing out that IMO nearly every couple that says "I do" find themselves on that path. Once on that path it us difficult to go back to find a better one.

Sometimes I wonder if a course on couple dynamics and how to make a M work should not be obligatory before M.

Long story short, going into your M you hadn't the necessary understanding nor tools to avoid it. None of us here did. Now we understand and see things clearer. Our crisis's have served us well if we learn from them.

I am glad you are not only achieving your targets, but enjoying yourself along the way.

Best wishes