25yearsMLC 10 Years Later I FILE D part 6

[leahsue]

25,
I'm not posting or reading much these last few days, for crazy reasons.... but I'm always drawn to yours.
All I can add to what you said above is this~

you and I are about the same age, with grown children, with Hs who are not being a family part, and at least one child who is gay, so we are in a similar struggle.

All I can advise you as you approach this weekend with part of the kids at "home", is this- through the troubling years, with both my kids in and out, I always had a certain "smell", whether it was me or the candles I specifically had on hand from a certain place, or the companion lotion and spray, or maybe all of it- no matter the actual footage or geographical location of the "home" I was in, I always made sure the smell was there- and without fail, that's the first thing they said, Wow, this smells like Leahsue." Which was a huge thing for me. Not that I didn't stumble into it, or planned it, but now I DO make sure that same smell is wherever life takes me. And so may it be with you, whether it's a smell, or a blanket, or a laundry detergent, or whatever you choose, I know first hand that it brings grown children peace to "feel" their Mama there, wherever that turns out. So maybe focus on that, and just let them soak that in- in the bed sheets, the sofa blankets, the whole house smell. That will comfort them, and remind them of you later, and bring some sense of peace and normality to them, wherever they go.

That's all I have tonight. I'm still reeling from this last round of Husband being here for ten days, and trying to sort my feelings and life post-visit. I will try to pull it together enough tomorrow to post on my own thread, but I wanted to reach out to you tonight.

Our WD Eagles didn't shine, but that's ok, we still love them and there's always a "next week".

Keep hanging on, and giving hugs to those newbies in your DC group- no one NEVER needs a hug. We all do. God bless those of us brave enough to step out there and give them.

More soon on my thread about my last 10 days with H. I need serious insights from all sides, so I'll have to lay it out like it really is, to get honest feedback. Please stay tuned, Love you, 25!