The TL;DR story: W says she wants a D. - This time she seems to mean it, but her actions (polite and friendly) are in contrast with her words (alternates between hostile in R talks to charming as can be). - Mom died 15 months ago, she started stepping down off meds 9 months ago, is totally off of them - Her Dad is moving to a retirement community this week - We both adore our kids and dog - We have a ton of close couple friends - She sends a ton of mixed messages - I'm sure I'm not the easiest person to live with, but I am working on improving myself. - W admits to being conflicted. - Her "therapist" is a "transition specialist"...ie helps with Ds and other life events. She wants me to to participate in those discussions, but I have refused. - No A or OM, but she has a guy friend/former coworker she Skype calls with in another country who is much older. She claims no PA or EA and has offered to introduce me to him. R unsteadiness precedes this complication. - We made plans today to go on a family trip over spring break in March.
Oh, and today we received a big heavy box from Amazon. W ordered an "anxiety blanket." Apparently this helps soothe anxious people. Neither of us are sleeping particularly well right now. I am trying to detach, stop mind-reading, and do things for me. It's hard.
Looks like a model marriage from the outside, but rocky shores are ahead. We're all looking for a little inner peace.
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